Reaching for new goals is scary! If you don’t reach though, you’re going to stay stuck. Is that really okay for you? Probably not but some people subconsciously keep themselves stuck because they’re too afraid to take a leap.
Here are 5 things that might be holding you back and what you can do about it.
Fear of failure.
The fear of failure can be paralyzing if you let it be. Failure is always a possibility but you can’t let that hold you back. If you let it hold you back you’ve failed without even trying.
What to do: Look at failure in a different light. See it as a valuable learning tool that you can use to help you achieve success. Failing at something just lets you know what not to do. If you fail, change what you’re doing. If you fail again keep changing what you’re doing until you figure it out. You also need to be open to the fact that the final outcome may not be exactly what you thought it was going to be and that’s okay. In most cases it’s better.
Listening to other people’s opinions.
When you set out to do something that could be difficult those who love you may point out all the reasons why you shouldn’t do it. Most likely they have your best interest in mind but in trying to protect you they may be holding you back. No one knows what you are capable of except you – and sometimes you don’t even know. If your goal is important enough to you, you’ll figure it out and you will be successful.
What to do: Listen to what people are telling you but remind yourself that they are not you. Most likely their fears for you stem from their own insecurities. If your goal is important enough and you have a plan go for it. Don’t let other’s fears dictate how you live your life.
This is a tough one. I think we all experience self-doubt which is actually a good thing because it forces us to think about all possible outcomes. Where it becomes bad is if you let your self-doubt stop you from trying.
What to do: Change your self-talk. If that voice in your head is telling you that you can’t do something stop listening to it and start telling yourself that you can in fact do it if you follow the steps. Instead of looking at the final outcome of your goal (which can be a bit overwhelming) look at the steps to get you there. Figure out the step you need to take right now to get you closer. Once you’re successful at taking even the tiniest step your self confidence will increase and you’ll have the courage to take the next step.
Fear of change.
Change is uncomfortable. It’s so much more comfortable and safe feeling to keep doing what you’re familiar with. This is even true when you’re not totally happy with what you’re doing. You may not be happy but you’re very comfortable with the procedure and that’s what keeps you stuck.
What to do: Look at change differently. In order to better your situation things need to change. At first it will feel foreign and uncomfortable and you’ll probably ask yourself why you’re even trying. All you need to do is push through that and pretty soon the change you’ve made will become a part of your life that you’re comfortable with. Nothing great happens in the comfort zone. You need to reach and grow if you want true fulfillment.
Your perception of your current situation.
What you tell yourself will become your reality. If you tell yourself that you don’t have enough money to start a business then that will be your reality. If you tell yourself that you can’t get into shape because you’re too busy then you’ll never achieve your fitness goals.
What to do: Instead of telling yourself that you’re stuck in your situation try telling yourself that you can and will figure out how to change it. If you don’t have the money to start your business tell yourself that there are resources out there and you’re going to find them. If you feel like you’re too busy to get in shape tell yourself that you’ll figure out how to fit in some exercise and you’ll learn how to eat properly. Keep telling yourself that you can achieve what you want and you’ll believe it so deeply that you’ll automatically start taking steps that are going to get you to your goal. Your mind is SO powerful – you just need to use it properly.
Go Get Em’ Tiger!
Really the only thing holding you back from all that you want out of life is you. Change your thinking and change your life. Is it going to be tough? Hell ya! Is it going to be worth it? YES! Decide right now if where you’re at in your life is good enough for you. If the answer is no, get off your butt and make things happen for yourself. No one will do it for you 😉