I think it’s safe to say that we all experience self-doubt now and then. If you let it get to you it can be crippling and can hold you back from your true potential. Let’s look at why you self-doubt and how to overcome it.
Why You Self-Doubt And How To Overcome It
Quite often people let past failures keep them stuck. Don’t look at past failures as a bad thing look at them as learning experiences. Failing is a great learning tool and if you’ve failed in the past you can be guaranteed that you are smarter for it today.
What to do: Think about your past failure and write down what you learned from that. Use that information to help you take a different approach to achieve your goal. Once you’ve figured out the lesson, let any negative feelings regarding that past failure go. Focus on what you now know you need to do and if you fail again it just means you’ve learned even more.
Lacking all the skills.
When you decide to try something new there’s a very good chance that you don’t have all the needed skills. It can be tempting to run from a challenge when you know you don’t yet possess all the necessary skills.
What to do: No one can know everything about everything. Start with the skills you already have and be open to learning more skills as you go along or enlist the help of someone who does have those skills. New skills can always be learned when you need them.
Someone else’s voice in your head.
There will be people out there that will feed your self-doubt. They might mean well in that they want to protect you from getting hurt, or they might just be projecting their own personal self-doubt onto you.
What to do: You can listen to what your naysayers have to say but don’t let it change your path. Listen to what they have to say, figure out if any of the information is helpful to you and if it’s not shut it out. Never let someone make a decision for you. Their doubt in your abilities is most likely tied more to their own self-doubt and has nothing to do with you at all. If you have a goal go for it and you’ll find ways around the obstacles that come your way.
Your voice in your head.
This is a tough one to overcome because it’s really hard to ignore that voice in your head. If you let it that voice will talk you out of anything and will keep you tied down in a mediocre life.
What to do: Catch yourself when you start thinking negatively and say STOP. Say it out loud if you like, for more effect. Just make sure it’s when you’re by yourself 😉 Keep this in mind: everyone has self-doubts that are fueled by that voice in their head. People who have achieved the greatest success have had to deal with that voice. When you hear it, shut it down and focus on one thing you can do right now that will move you toward your goal. Accomplishing a task that moves you closer to your goal, no matter how small, will shut that voice up instantly. Watch out though because the voice will return.
Fear of not being able to follow through.
When it comes to lofty goals it’s normal to wonder if you’ll be able to stick to it for the long haul. You realize it’s going to be a lot of work and you start doubting your ability to stay focused.
What to do: Trust yourself. Make sure your goal is truly important to you, quit overthinking it and jump in. Yes, it’s going to be a lot of work and yes, you’re going to have to be able to stick to it and follow through. If your goal is important enough to you, you’ll find a way to stick to the plan no matter what. In fact, you will absolutely be amazed by what you’ll be willing to do and how hard you’ll be willing to work.
Self-doubt will always be lurking but that doesn’t mean you have to give into it. Self-doubt is a bit of a protective mechanism to help keep you safe from discomfort but it’s also crippling and will keep you stuck. When it pops up see it as a sign that you’re on the right path to improving your life and living in a purposeful and meaningful way. You’ve got this!!!!