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Why You Self-Doubt And How To Overcome It

I think it’s safe to say that we all experience self-doubt now and then.  If you let it get to you it can be crippling and can hold you back from your true potential.  Let’s look at why you self-doubt and how to overcome it.

Why You Self-Doubt And How To Overcome It

  1. Past experience.

Quite often people let past failures keep them stuck.  Don’t look at past failures as a bad thing look at them as learning experiences.  Failing is a great learning tool and if you’ve failed in the past you can be guaranteed that you are smarter for it today.

What to do: Think about your past failure and write down what you learned from that.  Use that information to help you take a different approach to achieve your goal.  Once you’ve figured out the lesson, let any negative feelings regarding that past failure go.  Focus on what you now know you need to do and if you fail again it just means you’ve learned even more.

  1. Lacking all the skills.

When you decide to try something new there’s a very good chance that you don’t have all the needed skills.  It can be tempting to run from a challenge when you know you don’t yet possess all the necessary skills.

What to do: No one can know everything about everything.  Start with the skills you already have and be open to learning more skills as you go along or enlist the help of someone who does have those skills.  New skills can always be learned when you need them.

  1. Someone else’s voice in your head.

There will be people out there that will feed your self-doubt.  They might mean well in that they want to protect you from getting hurt, or they might just be projecting their own personal self-doubt onto you.

What to do: You can listen to what your naysayers have to say but don’t let it change your path.  Listen to what they have to say, figure out if any of the information is helpful to you and if it’s not shut it out.  Never let someone make a decision for you.  Their doubt in your abilities is most likely tied more to their own self-doubt and has nothing to do with you at all.  If you have a goal go for it and you’ll find ways around the obstacles that come your way.

  1. Your voice in your head.

This is a tough one to overcome because it’s really hard to ignore that voice in your head.  If you let it that voice will talk you out of anything and will keep you tied down in a mediocre life.

What to do: Catch yourself when you start thinking negatively and say STOP.  Say it out loud if you like, for more effect.  Just make sure it’s when you’re by yourself 😉 Keep this in mind: everyone has self-doubts that are fueled by that voice in their head.  People who have achieved the greatest success have had to deal with that voice.  When you hear it, shut it down and focus on one thing you can do right now that will move you toward your goal.  Accomplishing a task that moves you closer to your goal, no matter how small, will shut that voice up instantly.  Watch out though because the voice will return.

  1. Fear of not being able to follow through.

When it comes to lofty goals it’s normal to wonder if you’ll be able to stick to it for the long haul.  You realize it’s going to be a lot of work and you start doubting your ability to stay focused.

What to do: Trust yourself.  Make sure your goal is truly important to you, quit overthinking it and jump in.  Yes, it’s going to be a lot of work and yes, you’re going to have to be able to stick to it and follow through.  If your goal is important enough to you, you’ll find a way to stick to the plan no matter what.  In fact, you will absolutely be amazed by what you’ll be willing to do and how hard you’ll be willing to work. 

End Self-Doubt

Self-doubt will always be lurking but that doesn’t mean you have to give into it.  Self-doubt is a bit of a protective mechanism to help keep you safe from discomfort but it’s also crippling and will keep you stuck.  When it pops up see it as a sign that you’re on the right path to improving your life and living in a purposeful and meaningful way.  You’ve got this!!!!

Overcome Self-Doubt

Most of us experience self-doubt now and then.  Here’s the question: are you letting your self-doubt stop you from being great?  Chances are you are….you need to learn how to overcome self-doubt so you can have the life you deserve.

Some Tips!

  1. Acknowledge your self-doubt.

Rather than not trying something or not pushing yourself because it feels uncomfortable, acknowledge that what you are feeling is self-doubt.  It’s okay to feel it.  What matters is what you do next.  If you acknowledge it that means that you recognize it as something that’s holding you back.  Once you recognize that you can start to analyze that self-doubt and get beyond it.

  1. Figure out what the root of your self-doubt is.

More often than not self-doubt comes from an experience where you were not successful, or worse yet someone told you that you couldn’t do it.  Really think about what’s causing the self-doubt and then pick it apart.  If you’ve tried something before and failed, ask yourself why you failed.  Once you know that you know what not to do.  If your self-doubt came from something that someone said, think about what that was and ask yourself if there is really any truth at all to it.  How did this person come to the conclusion that you couldn’t be successful.  Chances are they were just projecting their own self-doubt onto you.

  1. Stop making excuses.

When you fear failure, or fear looking bad or fear taking on more than you can handle your brain will come up with a ton of excuses as to why this opportunity isn’t a good fit for you.  When you start making these excuses and justifications for not starting something, recognize that this is just your self-doubt talking and refuse to give into any excuses that your brain comes up with.

  1. Learn the skills.

If your self-doubt is caused by a lack of skill learn that skill!  Pretty much anything can be learned.  If you’re afraid of public speaking you can take courses on that.  If you doubt your ability to run a business take a business course or learn from others who are successful in business.  Most people shy away from things they aren’t good at – that’s just human nature.  But if it’s holding you back from what you want in life it’s time to learn how to do the thing that will get you closer to your dream.

  1. Ease up on yourself!

When you try something new, chances are you’re going to experience some failure.  Failure is an awesome learning tool but only if you use the experience correctly.  When you fail at something don’t get down on yourself.  Don’t let that negative self-talk creep into your head.  Put things in perspective and figure out what the valuable lesson from your failure is.  Treat yourself as you would a close friend or loved one who was struggling with something.

  1. Stop asking for validation.

Input and feedback from others is great!  You can learn a lot from it or you can decide that their input isn’t useful and ignore it.  Trust yourself to make the decisions that are right for you and don’t wait for someone to tell you you’re correct before moving forward.  If you always need other’s validation before moving forward with your life it’s going to be a very slow ride and most likely you won’t reach your potential.

Go Be Great!

This is your life.  You should have big, exciting plans and know that you will achieve them.  Don’t become complacent just because it’s comfortable.  Get out there and be great!