Why You Self-Doubt And How To Overcome It

I think it’s safe to say that we all experience self-doubt now and then.  If you let it get to you it can be crippling and can hold you back from your true potential.  Let’s look at why you self-doubt and how to overcome it.

Why You Self-Doubt And How To Overcome It

  1. Past experience.

Quite often people let past failures keep them stuck.  Don’t look at past failures as a bad thing look at them as learning experiences.  Failing is a great learning tool and if you’ve failed in the past you can be guaranteed that you are smarter for it today.

What to do: Think about your past failure and write down what you learned from that.  Use that information to help you take a different approach to achieve your goal.  Once you’ve figured out the lesson, let any negative feelings regarding that past failure go.  Focus on what you now know you need to do and if you fail again it just means you’ve learned even more.

  1. Lacking all the skills.

When you decide to try something new there’s a very good chance that you don’t have all the needed skills.  It can be tempting to run from a challenge when you know you don’t yet possess all the necessary skills.

What to do: No one can know everything about everything.  Start with the skills you already have and be open to learning more skills as you go along or enlist the help of someone who does have those skills.  New skills can always be learned when you need them.

  1. Someone else’s voice in your head.

There will be people out there that will feed your self-doubt.  They might mean well in that they want to protect you from getting hurt, or they might just be projecting their own personal self-doubt onto you.

What to do: You can listen to what your naysayers have to say but don’t let it change your path.  Listen to what they have to say, figure out if any of the information is helpful to you and if it’s not shut it out.  Never let someone make a decision for you.  Their doubt in your abilities is most likely tied more to their own self-doubt and has nothing to do with you at all.  If you have a goal go for it and you’ll find ways around the obstacles that come your way.

  1. Your voice in your head.

This is a tough one to overcome because it’s really hard to ignore that voice in your head.  If you let it that voice will talk you out of anything and will keep you tied down in a mediocre life.

What to do: Catch yourself when you start thinking negatively and say STOP.  Say it out loud if you like, for more effect.  Just make sure it’s when you’re by yourself 😉 Keep this in mind: everyone has self-doubts that are fueled by that voice in their head.  People who have achieved the greatest success have had to deal with that voice.  When you hear it, shut it down and focus on one thing you can do right now that will move you toward your goal.  Accomplishing a task that moves you closer to your goal, no matter how small, will shut that voice up instantly.  Watch out though because the voice will return.

  1. Fear of not being able to follow through.

When it comes to lofty goals it’s normal to wonder if you’ll be able to stick to it for the long haul.  You realize it’s going to be a lot of work and you start doubting your ability to stay focused.

What to do: Trust yourself.  Make sure your goal is truly important to you, quit overthinking it and jump in.  Yes, it’s going to be a lot of work and yes, you’re going to have to be able to stick to it and follow through.  If your goal is important enough to you, you’ll find a way to stick to the plan no matter what.  In fact, you will absolutely be amazed by what you’ll be willing to do and how hard you’ll be willing to work. 

End Self-Doubt

Self-doubt will always be lurking but that doesn’t mean you have to give into it.  Self-doubt is a bit of a protective mechanism to help keep you safe from discomfort but it’s also crippling and will keep you stuck.  When it pops up see it as a sign that you’re on the right path to improving your life and living in a purposeful and meaningful way.  You’ve got this!!!!

How To Be Happy And Successful

I think pretty much everyone wants to be happy and successful.  Do you know people who are happy and successful?  Have you ever wondered how they got there?

Happiness and success don’t necessarily come easy.  People who are happy and successful tend to have a few key habits in common.  Let’s look at what some of those habits are.

They don’t dwell on the past.

Everyone has a story and some people have had major struggles in their lives.  Happy and successful people have found a way to let the past go and focus on the future.  Until you can let go of your past you won’t be able to find your future.

They focus on what they believe.

Happy and successful people stay true to what they believe.  They take action on what is true to them not what they think will please others.  Stop trying to please others so you can work on pleasing yourself.

They are open minded.

They know when things aren’t working and are open to trying new things in order to make them work.  If you’re feeling stuck open your mind to the potential in the opportunities that come your way.

They finish what they started.

They know that there’s no point in starting something if they don’t finish it.  Every time you start something and don’t finish it it has an effect on your psyche.  Deep down you start to believe that you can’t accomplish anything because you never have.  When you start something new commit to finishing no matter how tough things get.

They trust themselves.

Happy and successful stick to their guns.  They don’t let uncertainty get in their way.  Being uncertain is a key component of failure.

They’re open to constructive criticism.

They know that they’re not perfect and they always want to learn.  For them constructive criticism helps them to be better at what they do because it gives them a different perspective.  When you receive constructive criticism learn from it and make the necessary changes.

They take risks.

People who are happy and successful don’t let fear keep them stuck.  They know that in order to move forward they need to face their fear and figure out how to conquer it.  When you conquer your fears your life changes.

They give back.

Most people have a need to help others.  When you’re able to help others change their lives your level of happiness rises to amazing heights.

They question convention.

These people know that just because things are done a certain way, it doesn’t mean it’s the best way.  If things aren’t working out for you by doing it the conventional way it’s time to look at alternative means.

They learn from others.

Happy and successful people know that they don’t know everything and that listening and learning from others is a key factor of personal growth.  When you find your mentor and really study them you’ll have guidelines to help you get to where you want to be.

They look after their health.

They know the power of good nutrition and physical activity.  If you’re not taking care of your health your mind and body will be out of balance.  True happiness is not possible when your mind and body are out of balance.

Be Happy And Successful!

You have within you the power to be happy and successful.  The key is to decide what you want to happen in your life and go after it.  Don’t just simply let life happen to you.