What To Do When You Feel Insecure About Your Body

I used to be chubby and super bad at sports.  No surprise that kids teased me and school was a miserable experience for me.  Unfortunately I’ve carried a lot of those insecurities into my adult hood but luckily I’ve learned to deal with them better.  I want to share with you some ideas of what to do when you feel insecure about your body.

What To Do When You Feel Insecure About Your Body

  1. Learn to love your body.

Definitely easier said than done but once you figure this one our you’ll be SO much happier.  When you have a negative thought about your body come up with two positive thoughts.  For instance, if you have large legs like me, remind yourself of all the wonderful things your strong, beautiful legs allow you to do.

  1. Keep in mind that everyone feels insecure at times.

You might look at another person and think they have the perfect body but it’s almost guaranteed that that person is insecure about certain areas.  Using my leg example again: I always felt they were too big and masculine but over the years I’ve had countless men and women compliment me on how beautiful they are.  It took a while for me to be able to accept the compliments but eventually I did.

  1. You don’t see yourself as other’s do.

Flaws that you see in yourself are probably only seen by you.  Those areas that you agonize about are not as bad as you think they are.  People tend to over exaggerate the so-called flaws they see on themselves.

  1. Have realistic expectations for your body.

I always wanted to be that tiny, wispy girl who was a size 0.  I wasted SO much time and effort trying to get there and it always ended in tears and frustration.  Finally, one day I got really honest with myself and realized that my body type would never be thin and wispy because I simply do not have the build for that.  At my lowest weight I still didn’t look the way I wanted because I don’t have that body type.  I finally realized I had to stop fighting it and work with my body, not against it.  That’s when I embraced strength training.  My body is the type to put on muscle and there’s nothing wrong with that.  Once I accepted that my relationship with myself got MUCH better.

Love Your Body So You Can Live Your Life

When you hate your body, life can be pretty miserable and you can end up holding yourself back from things if you let your insecurities get the best of you.  I don’t always feel great about my body and I definitely have my ‘I hate my body’ days but now I’m able to deal with it better.  Your body is your body and it’s beautiful so make sure you love it and treat it well.

Body Image

How’s Your Body Image?

Many people struggle with their body image.  Did you know that about 80-90% of women and about 30-40% of men report being dissatisfied with how their body looks?

It’s not really that surprising seeing that we are bombarded EVERYDAY with messages of how we “should” look.

And there’s no escaping these messages! You’ll see them all over social media and regular media. Even our friends, family, and significant others can directly or indirectly make us feel like we need to look a certain way.

This is not something to be taken lightly. Body dissatisfaction is linked to low self-esteem, low self-worth, and depression.

What if we could change the way we feel about ourselves?  What if we didn’t allow the messages and images we see every day to affect our self-esteem?

Easier said than done but let’s try anyway.


When I first started changing the way I ate and started working out it was purely because I wanted to lose weight and change the way my body looked. Those might seem like good motivators but really all I was doing was beating myself up and I was never satisfied with my progress.

Body dissatisfaction, and negative self-talk are NOT healthy motivators. If these are your only motivators you’ll most likely fall off the fitness wagon before long and be even more miserable. I did it MANY times.

Your body is amazing and whether you realize it or not it’s always doing the best it can at any given moment. If you only accept yourself as long as you look a certain way you are not practicing self-love and without self-love you’ll never be truly happy with any ‘progress’ you make.

Do you accept yourself for the way you are?

For a lot of years I was really unhappy with myself and my self-talk was terrible. It was almost like I felt like if I wasn’t hard on myself I’d never get the results I wanted and I’d never be happy with how I looked so I just kept telling myself what a failure I was in an attempt to motivate myself to stay on track.

That was a mistake that I wasted a lot of years on.

When I finally learned to accept myself for how I was everything changed. I felt happier and more energetic. My workouts started feeling like something I really wanted to do and not something that I was punishing myself with. It freed up the mental space that was once taken up with negative self-talk so I could make healthier choices and move forward.

There Needs To Be A Mindset Shift

Instead of thinking that you need to workout and eat healthy just so you can look a certain way, change that mindset and start thinking about how you choose to engage in healthy behaviors daily because they honor and support your body. This single shift will make you feel a new sense of freedom and motivation.

When your choices come from a place of love rather than a place of negativity and frustration your life will change.

Love and honor your body and celebrate every victory, no matter how small, instead of always looking for another physical flaw that you need to ‘fix’.

Do I still have days when I find myself engaging in negative self-talk about my body? ABSOLUTLEY!

But it happens much less often, and when it does, I remind myself that my negative self-talk isn’t serving me. Then I focus on something about my body that I am grateful for, or something that my body is capable of such as my strong legs that give me the ability to teach a kickass spin class, ride Gran Fondos and carry me everywhere I go!

Focus On Health First

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that health comes first. Check in on yourself often:

How is your sleep?

Is your energy good throughout the day?

Are you more emotionally stable?

How often do you get sick?

Are you able to focus clearly when needed?

All of these things are directly impacted by what we eat and how we exercise. Unhealthy eating habits and not enough, or too much exercise will affect your health negatively in the long run.

If you’re consistently practicing healthy lifestyle behaviors your body will change if it needs to and the best part is you will feel much better because your initial intention is one of self-love and self-acceptance.

When you let go of your body dissatisfaction your workouts will be more about keeping your body strong, flexible, and mobile versus fixing your appearance. You’ll be able to focus on ALL OF THE AMAZING things your body can do and that’s what’s really important.

Your life becomes so much more enjoyable when you shift away from trying to create the “perfect body”. And guess what? The “perfect body” doesn’t exist!!! Even the people you think have the “ideal” body, struggle with their own body image. Choose to accept and love your amazing body because it truly is AMAZING and not something to take for granted.