Change Is Scary!
Most people at one time or another want to make changes in their life. It could be a fitness goal, a relationship goal, a business goal – could be anything. No matter what you want to change there’s usually quite a bit of apprehension when you start thinking about change.
What To Do??
If you really want to change your life you need to have the right mindset. Here are 3 beliefs you need to have in order to get your mind right!
1 Believe that something MUST change.
I’ll use the examples above. Fitness Goal: Do you want to get in shape because you think it would be nice or because your health is at risk or your joints hurt too much to stay the way you are? Relationship Goal: Do you want to make changes in your relationship because of a couple of minor issues or because you know your relationship is going to end if you don’t do something about it right now? Business Goal: Do you want to change something in your business because you think it could be a good idea or because if you don’t make that change your business will fail? You have to absolutely believe that if you don’t make the change the consequences will be FAR worse than the discomfort you might experience as you start to take steps toward your goal.
2 Believe that you and ONLY YOU can change it.
You have to take full responsibility for the changes you want to make. You can’t rely on someone else to make the change for you. Make this change your personal mission. If you’re relying on someone else to do it then maybe you don’t really want it as much as you thought. Let’s look at our examples above again. Fitness Goal: if you want to get healthy you have to exercise and eat healthy. No one can do that for you. Relationship Goal: maybe you feel that you and your partner aren’t communicating enough. You have to step up and communicate that to your partner – they might not even be aware that there’s any problem at all. Business Goal: if you want to take your business to the next level you have to decide what steps you need to take and take those steps – no one is going to do that for you unless they get a part of your business.
3 You HAVE to believe that you CAN change.
You can do amazing things when you set your mind to it. People are motivated by two things: to avoid pain and to get pleasure. If you want to change a behavior pattern all you have to do is associate pain with the behavior pattern that’s keeping you stuck and associate pleasure with the behavior pattern that will get you unstuck. Let’s look at a fitness goal. Let’s say your fitness goal is to get healthy so you can keep up with your kids and right now you’re eating a lot of junk food and not exercising. In your mind eating junk food equals pleasure and exercising equals pain. All you have to do is swap that thinking! Think about all the things you dislike about not being able to keep up with your kids and being unhealthy and attach those bad feelings to eating junk food. Then think about all the pleasure that being strong and fit brings and attach those feelings to exercise. Same thing with our other examples. Attach your unhappiness to the behavior that’s keeping you stuck and attach happiness to the changes you’ll need to make to get you to your goal.
You’ve Totally Got This!
You have within you everything you need to make any change you want in your life. Decide what you want and go get it!