What’s Holding You Back!

Reaching for new goals is scary!  If you don’t reach though, you’re going to stay stuck.  Is that really okay for you?  Probably not but some people subconsciously keep themselves stuck because they’re too afraid to take a leap.

Here are 5 things that might be holding you back and what you can do about it.
  1. Fear of failure.

The fear of failure can be paralyzing if you let it be.  Failure is always a possibility but you can’t let that hold you back.  If you let it hold you back you’ve failed without even trying.

What to do: Look at failure in a different light.  See it as a valuable learning tool that you can use to help you achieve success.  Failing at something just lets you know what not to do.  If you fail, change what you’re doing.  If you fail again keep changing what you’re doing until you figure it out.  You also need to be open to the fact that the final outcome may not be exactly what you thought it was going to be and that’s okay.  In most cases it’s better.

  1. Listening to other people’s opinions.

When you set out to do something that could be difficult those who love you may point out all the reasons why you shouldn’t do it.  Most likely they have your best interest in mind but in trying to protect you they may be holding you back.  No one knows what you are capable of except you – and sometimes you don’t even know.  If your goal is important enough to you, you’ll figure it out and you will be successful.

What to do: Listen to what people are telling you but remind yourself that they are not you.  Most likely their fears for you stem from their own insecurities.  If your goal is important enough and you have a plan go for it.  Don’t let other’s fears dictate how you live your life.

  1. Self-doubt.

This is a tough one.  I think we all experience self-doubt which is actually a good thing because it forces us to think about all possible outcomes.  Where it becomes bad is if you let your self-doubt stop you from trying.

What to do: Change your self-talk.  If that voice in your head is telling you that you can’t do something stop listening to it and start telling yourself that you can in fact do it if you follow the steps.  Instead of looking at the final outcome of your goal (which can be a bit overwhelming) look at the steps to get you there.  Figure out the step you need to take right now to get you closer.  Once you’re successful at taking even the tiniest step your self confidence will increase and you’ll have the courage to take the next step.

  1. Fear of change.

Change is uncomfortable.  It’s so much more comfortable and safe feeling to keep doing what you’re familiar with.  This is even true when you’re not totally happy with what you’re doing.  You may not be happy but you’re very comfortable with the procedure and that’s what keeps you stuck.

What to do: Look at change differently.  In order to better your situation things need to change.  At first it will feel foreign and uncomfortable and you’ll probably ask yourself why you’re even trying.  All you need to do is push through that and pretty soon the change you’ve made will become a part of your life that you’re comfortable with.  Nothing great happens in the comfort zone.  You need to reach and grow if you want true fulfillment.

  1. Your perception of your current situation.

What you tell yourself will become your reality.  If you tell yourself that you don’t have enough money to start a business then that will be your reality.  If you tell yourself that you can’t get into shape because you’re too busy then you’ll never achieve your fitness goals.

What to do: Instead of telling yourself that you’re stuck in your situation try telling yourself that you can and will figure out how to change it.  If you don’t have the money to start your business tell yourself that there are resources out there and you’re going to find them.  If you feel like you’re too busy to get in shape tell yourself that you’ll figure out how to fit in some exercise and you’ll learn how to eat properly.  Keep telling yourself that you can achieve what you want and you’ll believe it so deeply that you’ll automatically start taking steps that are going to get you to your goal.  Your mind is SO powerful – you just need to use it properly.

Go Get Em’ Tiger!

Really the only thing holding you back from all that you want out of life is you.  Change your thinking and change your life.  Is it going to be tough?  Hell ya!  Is it going to be worth it?  YES!  Decide right now if where you’re at in your life is good enough for you.  If the answer is no, get off your butt and make things happen for yourself.  No one will do it for you 😉

Top 10 Lies (that you tell yourself) That Keep You From Going To The Gym

Let’s just be honest here.  Working out causes discomfort and for the most part people like to avoid discomfort.  Here’s the thing though.  A small amount of discomfort is SO worth the benefits of working out.

Here are the top 5 lies that you’ve probably told yourself that has kept you from going to the gym:

  1. I have no time.

Come on!  There are 24 hours in a day.  Are you really trying to convince yourself that within that 24 hours it’s impossible for you to dedicate just 1 hour (or less) a day to improve your health?  Try getting up just a bit earlier and fit in a quick workout before work.  You’ll be more energetic, more productive and take less sick days (it’s been proven!)

How about getting in a 20-30 minute workout on your lunch hour?  Or make a deal with yourself that before you can go home after work you have to hit the gym first.  There are ways to fit in daily physical activity.  Don’t over think it, just get your butt moving!

  1. Working out is boring.

Working out is not boring if you find the right kind of workout for your personality.  Are you competitive?  Try Cross Fit.  Are you motivated when with other people?  Join a group fitness class.  Like sports?  Join a league.

And really, does everything you do have to be super exciting?  If you still think working out is boring, think about your long term health and how it will affect you and your loved ones and suck it up!

  1. I’m too out of shape.

Ummmm….the gym is meant to get you in shape.  I totally understand feeling self-conscious but if someone is judging you when you’re doing something to help improve your life that’s their problem.   I love that quote – what other people think of you is none or your business.  You’d probably by shocked that most people at your gym are way to focused on themselves and don’t even notice you.  And even if they do notice you and have an opinion that opinion will not change your life in the way that adopting a healthy lifestyle will.

  1. It’s too expensive.

Working out does not have to be expensive.  There are gyms that will cost about a dollar a day.  You can’t spare a dollar?  Think about the things you spend your money on.  Are you buying take out coffee?  Drop that habit and start making coffee at home and you’ll have paid for about a week at a gym.  Still think you can’t afford it?  Don’t join a gym.  Go outside!  You can go for a run and on the way stop and do some pushups, squats, lunges, dips….if you need more ideas contact me and I’ll share my bootcamp workouts with you.

Another option is to YouTube workout videos that you can do at home.  There are lots here.

5. Not motivated enough.

If you tell yourself you’re not motivated that you won’t be.  Whatever you think will become your reality.  Being unmotivated is a decision that you make.  If you need something to get you started maybe sign up for an event.  Or google inspirational quotes.

People are motivated by things that they really want.  All you need is a goal that resonates deeply with you.  Maybe it’s to be able to move without pain, or to live to see your grandchildren grow up, or to not be a burden on your loved ones as you age, or to participate in something you’ve always wanted to try.  Motivation will not just appear on its own!  You have to find it and then light a fire underneath yourself!

No More Lies!

Time to cut out the lies and do something that will improve your health and quality of living.  It’s your responsibility to look after your body.  And really, when you think about it an hour a day is nothing when it means that you’ll live a fuller, richer life.

Benefits Of Being Mindful

Some Benefits of Being Mindful

Being mindful is something we should all practice.  It means focusing on the present moment and not letting distractions pull you away.  Here are some benefits of being mindful:

  1. Improved sense of well-being

    People who practice mindfulness are less likely to be as stressed.  They’re not worrying about the future and they’re not grinding on the past.  They’re able to enjoy each moment and by doing that are able to create stronger bonds with those they love.

  2. Improved physical health

    Studies have shown that practicing mindfulness can actually have a positive impact on your health.  Here are some health benefits of mindfulness:

  • Helps to relieve stress
  • Helps to lower blood pressure
  • Reduces chronic pain
  • Improves sleep
  1. Improved mental health.

    There have also been studies done that show mindfulness can improve your mental health.  It can help treat:

  • Depression
  • Addiction
  • Anxiety
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

How To Practice Mindfulness

Here are three things you can start doing today to help you be more mindful and live a more rewarding life:

  1. Breathe.  Sounds simple right? You’d be surprised though by how often most of us are not breathing properly.  When you have a few free minutes find a quiet spot.  Just sit and focus on your breath.  I find it helps to follow a count: breathe in for 4 counts then out for 4 counts.  As you get better you can extend your count.  You’ll be surprised by how easy this makes it to focus on just your breath and drown everything else out.
  2. Become aware of your body. Find a quiet spot for this too.  This will take a bit more focus.  If you can lie down in a comfortable spot.  Close your eyes and then start focusing on different parts of your body.  Start at your feet.  Spend some time here and focus on what you’re feeling in your feet.  Then slowly work your way up your body.  Notice if you’re feeling any tightness.  If you do try to let the tightness go.  This brings us to the third thing to try.
  3. Let go of tension. When we’re distracted and/or stressed our body will become tense.  For most people this tension is most noticeable in their neck and shoulders.  You’re probably holding tension in other areas too.  In your quiet spot, while you’re breathing deeply and becoming aware of your body look for those tense spots.  Once you find one focus on letting it go.  Keep doing this for each tense spot in your body.  This could take a bit of time so if you’re short on time focus on one area today and do the others on another day.

Go Be Mindful

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and lose the ability to be mindful.  You might think you’re doing a great job of multi-tasking and getting lots done but really in the end you’re only giving a small part of yourself to things that require a large part.  Becoming mindful will change your outlook on life and you’ll be able to deeply connect with the people and things that are truly important to you.  Mindfulness leads to a rich and rewarding life.

Simple Steps To Do Anything You Want to do

Simple Steps To Do Anything You Want to do

  1. Define your goals.

Make your goals very specific.  Write down exactly what you want no matter how crazy it may seem.

  1. Decide how bad you want it.

Now that you have your goals, decide how badly you want it.  Things are going to get tough sometimes so you need to really love it.  When you’re having a bad day and don’t want to do what you need to do will the thought of the outcome you’re working towards be enough to motivate you?  Don’t waste time start on a path to something you don’t really want that bad.

  1. Create your plan of action and break it down into steps.

If your goal is to lose weight and be healthy you need a plan.  Where are you going to workout?  Do you need to join a gym?  When will you workout?  Write it on your schedule.  What healthy foods do you need to have in your house?  When are you going to go shopping for them?  What unhealthy things do you need to get rid of?  Plan every step and then DO THE STEPS.

  1. Focus on each part of your plan.

Stay focused!  Don’t half ass anything.  Using the fitness goal, when you’re doing your workouts focus your workout.  When you’re out shopping for healthy foods take a list and stick to the list.

  1. Be consistent and persistent.

Consistency and persistence are key.  There will be days you don’t feel like doing what you need to do.  There will be days where you feel like you’re getting nowhere and you’ll question why you’re even doing it.  Push through that!  Do what you need to do everyday no matter what.  Sometimes the journey is tough, but the outcome is worth it (assuming you did step 2).

  1. Visualize yourself having reached your goal.

Spend some time every day or every other day visualizing your life once you’ve reached your goal.  How will you feel?  Take time to focus on how great you’re going to feel.  The long term pay off is pretty much always better than the instant gratification you feel you need in a given moment.

10 Tips On How To Be Successful At Getting What You Want

If you really want something and you put your mind to it you can achieve it.  Embarking on a new challenge can seem daunting and maybe even impossible but if you make a decision to get it you will.  Here are some tips on how to be successful at getting what you want.

10 Tips On How To Be Successful At Getting What You Want

  1. Stop focusing on who you were and start focusing on who you are and who you want to be.

There’s a good chance that you’ve failed at something in the past.  It’s okay to fail but not if you define yourself by that failure.  You have to let go of the past, figure out what you learned from your past failures and use that knowledge to move forward.  Don’t undermine yourself by assuming you’re the same person you were In the past.  With every failure you should learn new lessons and move forward.

  1. Have confidence in yourself.

Decide that you really can achieve what you want.  Stop second guessing yourself.  When you try to achieve something new you’re doing to need to try new things and figure out what works.  You may have to try a lot of different things before you find something that works.  Have the confidence in yourself that you’ll keep trying new things until you get what you want and know that with determination and consistent effort you will get what you want.  The process may be different from what you imagined but the outcome will be achieving what you set out to achieve.

  1. Don’t let doubters stop you.

Quite often when you set out to achieve a big important goal there’ll be people who will question your ability.  These people are just expressing their own insecurities and you need to not listen to them.  Decide what you want and work towards it no matter what anyone has to say about it.  If someone wants to second guess you or criticize you, let them but don’t let their own self-limiting thoughts effect you.  Who is anyone to tell you that you can’t do something.  Everyday everyone gets to make their own personal choices that will affect how their life turns out.  Choose the things/activities that will move your closer to your goal and do them!

  1. View challenges as opportunities.

Of course there are going to be challenges along the way!  Challenges can’t stop you.  The only thing that can stop you is how you react to challenges.  Each challenge that comes your way is a new opportunity to learn and grow.

  1. Learn to adapt.

Making changes so you can get what you want means you’ll be making changes!  Your life is going to be different!  You have to be able to adapt to different circumstances if you want change.  If you can’t adapt to change your life will never change.

  1. Stop complaining.

Complaining just allows for negativity and self-doubt.   Are things going to get uncomfortable and tough?  Yes!  When things get uncomfortable you know you’re on the right path but you have to make a choice to embrace the discomfort.  When you complain about how tough things are you are wasting valuable time and effort.  If you’re letting yourself complain you’re just filling your mind with absolutely useless stuff that will block out any thoughts that will help you move forward.  You can acknowledge the discomfort but don’t react to it by complaining.  Use it as motivation to keep moving forward to what you want.

  1. Engage in regular self-development.

You need to invest in your own personal growth.  Read personal development books, go to seminars, watch YouTube videos of people who you admire.  It’s up to you to improve yourself but without the proper tools it can be really easy to get stuck.  Everyone has the potential to improve and do great things – you just need the right tools to get there.  Learning how to develop your strengths will make you unstoppable.

  1. Focus on the moment.

It can be tough to shut out the distractions and focus on the moment but if you learn to do this you’re going to be unstoppable.  If you’re trying the achieve something important it needs you to be 100% present.  If you’re working on something but you’re allowing your focus to wander to other things you won’t be using your time as effectively as you could.  Make the decision to dedicate a set amount of time to exactly what you need to do to get closer to your goal.  During this time nothing else exists.  It’s just you and your goal and the task you need to do right now to get closer to it.

  1. Learn from others.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, which is a huge waste of time and energy, learn from them.  Look at other people who have achieved what you want and learn about how they got there.  It won’t be the same path you’ll take, but you could learn some very valuable lessons by looking at the different ways others have achieved what you want.  If possible reach out to someone you admire and ask if they’ll share their story with you.  Almost guaranteed they’ll be happy to.  Listen with an open mind and see what you can apply to your own life.

  1. Be open.

If someone suggests a different way of doing something be open to it.  At first their advice might seem wrong but instead of reacting right away in a negative way tell them you’ll think about it.  Quite often when you hear someone else’s ideas you think they’re wrong because they aren’t the same ideas you had.  This is a normal instant reaction to something that’s different from what you believe.  Take some time to consider the information the other person has offered.  You may just discover something you hadn’t even thought of that will propel you forward towards your goal.

Don’t Get In Your Way

Making changes is scary but if you want to improve your life you need to embrace the scariness.  Don’t stop yourself from going after what you want.  If you do you only have yourself to blame if you’re unhappy with your situation.  Believe in yourself and live the life you want!

Why You Self-Doubt And How To Overcome It

I think it’s safe to say that we all experience self-doubt now and then.  If you let it get to you it can be crippling and can hold you back from your true potential.  Let’s look at why you self-doubt and how to overcome it.

Why You Self-Doubt And How To Overcome It

  1. Past experience.

Quite often people let past failures keep them stuck.  Don’t look at past failures as a bad thing look at them as learning experiences.  Failing is a great learning tool and if you’ve failed in the past you can be guaranteed that you are smarter for it today.

What to do: Think about your past failure and write down what you learned from that.  Use that information to help you take a different approach to achieve your goal.  Once you’ve figured out the lesson, let any negative feelings regarding that past failure go.  Focus on what you now know you need to do and if you fail again it just means you’ve learned even more.

  1. Lacking all the skills.

When you decide to try something new there’s a very good chance that you don’t have all the needed skills.  It can be tempting to run from a challenge when you know you don’t yet possess all the necessary skills.

What to do: No one can know everything about everything.  Start with the skills you already have and be open to learning more skills as you go along or enlist the help of someone who does have those skills.  New skills can always be learned when you need them.

  1. Someone else’s voice in your head.

There will be people out there that will feed your self-doubt.  They might mean well in that they want to protect you from getting hurt, or they might just be projecting their own personal self-doubt onto you.

What to do: You can listen to what your naysayers have to say but don’t let it change your path.  Listen to what they have to say, figure out if any of the information is helpful to you and if it’s not shut it out.  Never let someone make a decision for you.  Their doubt in your abilities is most likely tied more to their own self-doubt and has nothing to do with you at all.  If you have a goal go for it and you’ll find ways around the obstacles that come your way.

  1. Your voice in your head.

This is a tough one to overcome because it’s really hard to ignore that voice in your head.  If you let it that voice will talk you out of anything and will keep you tied down in a mediocre life.

What to do: Catch yourself when you start thinking negatively and say STOP.  Say it out loud if you like, for more effect.  Just make sure it’s when you’re by yourself 😉 Keep this in mind: everyone has self-doubts that are fueled by that voice in their head.  People who have achieved the greatest success have had to deal with that voice.  When you hear it, shut it down and focus on one thing you can do right now that will move you toward your goal.  Accomplishing a task that moves you closer to your goal, no matter how small, will shut that voice up instantly.  Watch out though because the voice will return.

  1. Fear of not being able to follow through.

When it comes to lofty goals it’s normal to wonder if you’ll be able to stick to it for the long haul.  You realize it’s going to be a lot of work and you start doubting your ability to stay focused.

What to do: Trust yourself.  Make sure your goal is truly important to you, quit overthinking it and jump in.  Yes, it’s going to be a lot of work and yes, you’re going to have to be able to stick to it and follow through.  If your goal is important enough to you, you’ll find a way to stick to the plan no matter what.  In fact, you will absolutely be amazed by what you’ll be willing to do and how hard you’ll be willing to work. 

End Self-Doubt

Self-doubt will always be lurking but that doesn’t mean you have to give into it.  Self-doubt is a bit of a protective mechanism to help keep you safe from discomfort but it’s also crippling and will keep you stuck.  When it pops up see it as a sign that you’re on the right path to improving your life and living in a purposeful and meaningful way.  You’ve got this!!!!

Stop Being So Hard On Yourself!

A lot of people have a tendency to be really hard on themselves.  They think that what they’re doing is never good enough.  If this is you, you need to stop being so hard on yourself!

How To Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

  1. Remember that mistakes are part of the learning process.

We all make mistakes!  You should actually strive to make mistakes because it’s the best way to learn.  When you experience what doesn’t work you won’t repeat it.  You’ll learn and grow from the experience.  Welcome your mistakes – just make sure you learn from them 😉

  1. There is no right way to do anything and there is no such thing as the perfect time to start something.

If you find yourself not doing something because you think you’ll do it wrong, you’re wrong!!  There’s no ‘right’ way of doing things.  Everyone has their own path to follow and the way you do things may be totally different from how someone else would do it but that does not make it wrong.  And please don’t tell yourself that you have to wait for the right time to start something.  If you want to do something, start now.  There will never be a ‘perfect’ time so if that’s what you’re waiting for get ready for a long wait.

  1. Accept that your weaknesses are part of what make you unique.

No one is good at everything so don’t get down on yourself for your weaknesses.  Instead view your weaknesses as just a part of what makes you you.  Appreciate your strengths and get help with the stuff you’re not so good at.  When you reach out for help you get to meet some pretty awesome people.

  1. Don’t get hung up on the past.

Everything that happened to you in the past has made you who you are today but your past is not your identity.  Whatever you went through, whatever ‘mistakes’ you made taught you valuable lessons that allowed you to grow and become the person you are today.

  1. Learn from criticism.

Criticism can be hard to hear but it also teaches you a lot.  When someone criticizes you listen to what they’re saying and then thank them for pointing it out.  At first it might hurt your ego a bit, but you need to let go of your ego and listen with an open mind.  It’s great to hear good things from people but criticism is what you learn from.  You do need to know the difference between constructive criticism and criticism that’s coming from a bad place though.  Some people are at such a low point in their life that they need to bring others down to help make them feel better.  Consider the source, look for any valuable lessons and let the rest go.

Lighten Up Already!

There are too many awesome things in life to experience to let yourself get caught up in your own head too much.  Stop taking yourself so seriously!  Live your life without fear of not being perfect and look for the humour in things.

How To Get Back To Your Workout Routine!

It happens to the best of us!  You suddenly realize that you haven’t worked out in ages and you’re not feeling as good as you used to.  You want to get back into your routine but you’re struggling to get started.  I’ve got some tips tips on how to get back to your workout routine.

Get Back To Your Workout Routine With These Easy Steps

You can’t deny that working out just makes you feel better.  That rush of endorphins is addictive.  So why is it so easy to fall out of your routine?  Why is it so hard to get started again?  The thing about exercise is that it creates some discomfort while you’re doing it and generally most people like to avoid discomfort.  But think about all the amazing things that working out does for you.  The endorphin rush, the confidence you feel when your body is in shape, less body aches and better energy!

Here are some tips to get you back into the game!

  1. Commit to a 30 day challenge.

Whether it’s an organized challenge or just one you set out for yourself, commit to 30 days.  By committing to a set amount of time you eliminate the fear of a long term commitment but quite often, after 30 days, your new routine has become a habit that you don’t want to give up.

  1. Sign up for classes at a boutique studio.

Instead of paying a monthly fee at a gym and maybe, or maybe not, showing up for your workouts pre-commit to classes at your favourite studio.  When you know that you’re paying for a particular class whether you show up or not, chances are you’re going to show up.  Also when you’re doing a class in a small boutique studio you know everyone will notice if you skip out early so you’re more likely to stay for the whole workout.

  1. Write down how you feel after your workout.

Get yourself to that first workout and then right after write down how great you feel.  Include a lot of detail as if you were trying to sell it to someone.  The next time you’re having a problem with motivating yourself to go to your workout, read your notes.  Most likely this will be enough motivation to get you out the door.

  1. Find an instructor you love.

If you love your instructor you’re going to be more excited about getting to your workout.  Find someone who teaches an awesome class and motivates you the way you like to be motivated.  Like to be yelled at?  Find an instructor who teaches like that.  Maybe you like an instructor who gently encourages you.  Or maybe you like an instructor with great taste in music.  Or maybe you just like a bit of eye candy.  Whatever works for you, there’s an instructor out there who will fit the bill 😊

  1. Reward yourself.

We all love rewards so why not use this as motivation.  You could reward yourself with new workout gear, or by starting an after class coffee ritual with your fellow workout buddies.  By associating something you enjoy with your workout you’ll be less likely to skip the workout.

  1. Recruit friends.

Find some friends who also want to workout and make a pact to commit to working out together.  As human beings we typically don’t like to let other people down so if you have buddies who are expecting you you’ll be less likely to skip out.

You Can Do It!

It’s hard to get back into a fitness routine, especially if it’s been a while but you can absolutely do it!  Think of the benefits and how great you’re going to feel (and look) and get your butt back into it!

How To Get What You Want

Maybe you’ve heard of the law of attraction.  Basically the law of attraction says that you attract what you put out into the universe.  If your thoughts are negative you’ll attract negative experiences but if your thoughts are positive you’ll attract positive experiences.  Using the law of attraction can help you get what you want out of life.

How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Get What You Want Out Of Life

  1. Align your thoughts with what you want.

What you think about is what you become.  If you think you’re doomed to live a hard life, you’ll live a hard life.  If you think you can achieve whatever you want, you’ll achieve whatever you want. What you tell yourself on a regular basis is what you become.

  1. Vocalize what you want.

Saying something out loud is very powerful.  Talk to someone about what you plan to do and what you want to happen.  Talk about it like it’s already about to happen and talk about it often.  The other great thing about talking about it is that sometimes another person’s feedback or suggestion is the exact info you need to get you closer to that thing you want.

  1. Imagine you already have what you want and let yourself experience the feeling of having it.

Make an effort once a day for at least a few minutes to imagine in great detail the outcome that you want.  If you want to lose weight see yourself at the weight you want to be.  See yourself doing the things you want to do in your new healthy body.  Imagine exactly how that feels.  Think about it as if it’s already happened and focus on your feelings about it.

  1. Take inspired action.

Wishing for, talking about and thinking about what you want won’t quite get you all the way there.  You need to take action steps to get to where you want to be.  Want to improve your health and fitness?  Start learning what you need to do to do that and take small steps that put you on the track to get there.

You Decide What Your Life Will Be Like

You have way more power than you think to make your life exactly what you want.  If you’re really serious about what you want use the steps above to get you there.  It’s not easy!  You can’t just wish for it and expect it to happen, you have to work for it.  Create your vision, attach yourself emotionally to it and then take inspired action to make it happen.

How To Be More Optimistic

I’m an optimist, almost to a fault.  I’ll find the bright side in pretty much any situation.  People have made fun of me for it in the past but that doesn’t bother me.  When you’re optimistic you’ll be able to see opportunity in unlikely places.  Your life will feel more fulfilling and enjoyable.  If you’re struggling with looking on the bright side check out these tips on how to be more optimistic

6 Tips On How To Be More Optimistic

  1. Express gratitude.

Everyday take a few minutes to think about all the things and people in your life you’re grateful for.  You could even keep a gratitude diary.  Thinking about what you’re grateful for allows you to see how fortunate you are and helps you appreciate your life.

  1. Listen to other people’s stories.

Listening to stories of how others have persevered fosters optimism.  People often feel like they’re alone in their struggles so when they hear about someone who has had similar struggles and how it all turned out okay it makes them feel more optimistic about their own situation.

  1. Surround yourself with upbeat people.

It can be easy to get caught up in other people’s drama and that can drain the life right out of you.  Pessimistic people will drain you of energy.  Optimistic people will bring you up.  It’s not always possible to totally avoid pessimistic people but you can limit your time with them and choose to be around someone who’s optimistic as much as you can.

  1. Don’t let the opinions of others bring you down.

A person’s opinion is based on their own reality and experiences.  If someone is telling you that you can’t achieve your goals it has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you.  Ignore the naysayers or agree to disagree and keep moving forward on your own path.

  1. Smile!

The next time you’re feeling down about something force yourself to smile.  Just the action of smiling helps to change your mindset.  Also, smiling creates a happy, welcoming environment and draws others in.

  1. Look for something good in every situation.

Even if the situation seems really bleak, look for something positive to focus on.  If you tried something and it didn’t work out take comfort in knowing you learned a lesson.  If you’re working at a job you don’t like, remind yourself that that job provides a regular pay cheque and that you can always take steps to change your career.  Maybe your relationship just ended and you’re feeling really low.  Remind yourself that you’ve now opened yourself to the opportunity of finding someone who truly completes you or maybe you’ll discover that you are actually more happy on your own.

Life Is Too Short To Be Miserable

If you’re a pessimist start making an effort to change how you view the world.  We’re only here for a short time and you want to be open to all the awesome things life has to offer.  If you’re letting yourself be engulfed in a fog of negativity you won’t see those awesome things.  Start changing your habits and start really enjoying life!