Most of us experience self-doubt now and then. Here’s the question: are you letting your self-doubt stop you from being great? Chances are you are….you need to learn how to overcome self-doubt so you can have the life you deserve.
Acknowledge your self-doubt.
Rather than not trying something or not pushing yourself because it feels uncomfortable, acknowledge that what you are feeling is self-doubt. It’s okay to feel it. What matters is what you do next. If you acknowledge it that means that you recognize it as something that’s holding you back. Once you recognize that you can start to analyze that self-doubt and get beyond it.
Figure out what the root of your self-doubt is.
More often than not self-doubt comes from an experience where you were not successful, or worse yet someone told you that you couldn’t do it. Really think about what’s causing the self-doubt and then pick it apart. If you’ve tried something before and failed, ask yourself why you failed. Once you know that you know what not to do. If your self-doubt came from something that someone said, think about what that was and ask yourself if there is really any truth at all to it. How did this person come to the conclusion that you couldn’t be successful. Chances are they were just projecting their own self-doubt onto you.
When you fear failure, or fear looking bad or fear taking on more than you can handle your brain will come up with a ton of excuses as to why this opportunity isn’t a good fit for you. When you start making these excuses and justifications for not starting something, recognize that this is just your self-doubt talking and refuse to give into any excuses that your brain comes up with.
Learn the skills.
If your self-doubt is caused by a lack of skill learn that skill! Pretty much anything can be learned. If you’re afraid of public speaking you can take courses on that. If you doubt your ability to run a business take a business course or learn from others who are successful in business. Most people shy away from things they aren’t good at – that’s just human nature. But if it’s holding you back from what you want in life it’s time to learn how to do the thing that will get you closer to your dream.
Ease up on yourself!
When you try something new, chances are you’re going to experience some failure. Failure is an awesome learning tool but only if you use the experience correctly. When you fail at something don’t get down on yourself. Don’t let that negative self-talk creep into your head. Put things in perspective and figure out what the valuable lesson from your failure is. Treat yourself as you would a close friend or loved one who was struggling with something.
Stop asking for validation.
Input and feedback from others is great! You can learn a lot from it or you can decide that their input isn’t useful and ignore it. Trust yourself to make the decisions that are right for you and don’t wait for someone to tell you you’re correct before moving forward. If you always need other’s validation before moving forward with your life it’s going to be a very slow ride and most likely you won’t reach your potential.
Go Be Great!
This is your life. You should have big, exciting plans and know that you will achieve them. Don’t become complacent just because it’s comfortable. Get out there and be great!